The community of Bleeding Heart mourns the passing of one of its most beautiful princesses, Wykeshia Lavel McCallister who died at the age of 32. Throughout her old-self life, Wykeshia struggled with a headache of critical spirits within her, a … Continue reading
As a true DD4L fan and a true Diamond Princess, I had to keep it real when I come across something that really gets me. So the honest tea that I am about to spill is the aftermath between two dance teams in the state of Mississippi: The Dancing Dolls and The Purple Diamonds.
From the very beginning, the Purple Diamond have been the Dancing Dolls biggest rival for quite sometime. When they first battled each other, things got worse and it stinks so bad. Here’s what happened. At the Shut Up And Dance Jamboree, the Dancing Dolls loss against the Purple Diamonds, and because of the fact that they won, here’s exactly what made things worse.
Now, you wanna know what’s with that picture? That’s why I called the Purple Diamonds a new name:Purple Cubic Zirconias. Do you think for one minute that a DIAMOND would actually behave like that
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Here it is, today is my birthday. On the REAL deal, I don’t want to be in my 30s looking for stability…that’s the 20s are for. I’m trying to be 30, looking 20, thinking 50, and still keeping it 💯. Now that I’m 32, these are 32 lessons I’ve learned and know it’s all true.
1.) If you want something done right, you’ll have to do it yourself
2.) When things aren’t adding up in your life, start subtracting.
3.) Never fall in love with the wrong guy because they’re main ones who knows the right things to say.
4.) Love doesn’t cost a thing; it only pays to be yourself. And if you can afford love, Jesus wouldn’t have to go to Calvary.
5.) Stop Facebooking your problems and start facing your problems.
6.) What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
7.) The more you trust God, the more He amazes you.
8.) Fake friends are like 4 quarters, 20 nickels, 10 dimes, 100 pennies, and 2 half dollars: they all change for a dollar.
9.) To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.
10.) Don’t trust what you see, even salt looks like sugar.
11.) When God has a calling on your life, expect your enemies to attack you.
12.) Standing alone is better than standing with people who constantly hurt you. But God is always with you, even if in the shadows.
13.) No hater can stop God’s favor. God will give them front row seats to watch your life prosper.
14.) Be careful how you’re talking to yourself because you’re listening.
15.) People who keep it real don’t care about being liked, they care about being respected.
16.) God didn’t bring you through the storm just to drop in a mud puddle.
17.) God is so big, He can cover the whole world with His love, and so small He can curl up inside your heart.
18.) You can’t erase the past; no need to be frozen let it go. You can’t change yesterday; you must accept the lessons learned.
19.) Before you God, doubt your own doubts.
20.) You may not feel victorious. It may not look like you’re blessed, but by faith, you’ve got to fake it until you make it.
21.) You’ve got to be mindful for how you treat people.
22.) Before you point the finger at somebody, make sure your hands are clean.
23.) If you want to feel rich, just count all the gifts you have which money can’t buy.
24.) The only people who are mad at you for speaking the truth are the main ones living a lie. Never stop speaking the truth.
25.) You reap what you sow. If you’re sowing bad seeds, it’s coming back to you.
26.) God is the best listener; you don’t need to shout or cry out loud because He hears you even the very silent prayer of a sincere heart.
27.) Humble yourself in the sight of the LORD, and He will lift you up.
28.) With a tiara and a little confidence, we could change our world.
29.) Don’t let life’s tough times harden you like a rock. Let them polish you like a diamond.
30.) Be your true self, people will judge you anyway, so they might as well judge the real you.
31.) Not everyone you like is going to love you back, that’s why you need to love yourself before you love anyone else.
32.) If God doesn’t give you what you want, then it isn’t what you need. But if God is all you have, then have all you need.
When I was in high school, I called myself having a serious crush on a guy. I was young, naïve, and immature because I didn’t know anything about love just like I didn’t know anything about him. The only thing I know is that he’s charming and he was in the 12th grade. I never thought I’d be going crazy in love with this guy knowing that he’s already taken. I admit it, I did call myself giving him gifts and stuff like that, and what did I get from him? Nothing. Not a gift, not a date, nada…all I got were pictures…just pictures.
But when it comes to the last straw, that’s my cue of waking up. One day I was on my way to class. I was told from his class mates that he said that if I want to be his girlfriend, I need to pull my grades up. I was in total shock and I wasn’t expecting it. But here’s the funny part. On the day when I was receiving my progress report card, it turns out that I have better grades. The minute when his classmates saw what my progress report card was, the guy was embarrassed. His grades didn’t look too good at all and the only thing he’d say is that my grades looks better than his. I asked myself, “How is this fool giving me an ultimatum about pulling my grades up when his grades look like garbage?” I even told myself, “It looks like I didn’t have to pull my grades up to be his girlfriend after all, and his classmates didn’t have to tell me what he had said when knowing he could’ve been man enough to tell me himself.” To make matters worse, the guy had the gall to call me Satan’s Child. Right away, I realized that I’m better than that. I’m MORE than that. And that lets me know that I shouldn’t feed the need I have for this guy because he’s not worth my time nor my attention. And that’s when I decided to cut him loose. I didn’t want to admit it, but I knew that I was falling in love with the wrong guy.
I’ve spend days and months feeling helpless and I ended up blaming myself. I thought, “If I haven’t been so much in love with this dirt bag, I wouldn’t be in this mess. My mother already warned me to not let that boy make a fool out of me, and now look what happened.” It’s true, I should’ve known better. I’ve been spending way too much time loving this dirt bag than focusing on my education. As the years went by, I haven’t been in contact with him since my 20th birthday as well as facebooking.
At age 26, I ended up having a crush on another guy. I’ve been knowing this one since high school. He was a 9th grader and I was a 12th grader. We have been facebooking each other and texting each time to time and in 2012, that’s when I broke the news to him. I told him that I have a crush on him and I didn’t want to come between him, his family, and his career. And lo, and behold, he didn’t have any genuine interest in me just by telling me that he already knew I had feelings for him and that he only sees me as a friend. I was disappointed and I took things way too far just by being too friendly to him. Once again, I was naïve that my mother warned me not to let another guy make a fool out of me. But this time, he was NOT showing her or me any interest. As foolish as I was, I was always bragging about him and gave him a card for Valentine’s Day. But what did he give me in return? Nothing! Not even a thing.
Years later, I have discovered his true colors when he started to change. That’s when I found out that he was in a long-distance relationship with a girl who lives far away. I was upset and I never thought that I’d be going down this dirty path all over again. A few years ago, his new girlfriend and I bonded well on social media but things became very complicated for me to bare. When she started flaunting my 2nd ex-crush all over the Internet, I decided to distance myself and start getting my focus back on what I should be focusing on, and that’s on God. I felt like I’m bittersweet but I realize that I’m still blessed because it was God’s plan to turn my heartbreak into a blessing. During that time, I have no communication with the guy ever again. No birthday text, no holiday text, nothing. And that’s my cue for moving on.
Things were going smooth until I ended up having another crush on another guy for the last time. This time, it was only a test. When I was 29, I secretly had a crush on a guy that is my former high school bandmate. I’ve been liking, sharing, and commenting almost everything on facebook but I was being cautious because I remembered what happened when I had hard crushes to two different guys and I didn’t want to be naïve and looking foolish any more than I already have. This guy never calls or text me but he has been facebooking me very seldom. When I found out that he’s in a relationship with someone else, I had no choice but to respectfully cut him loose. That’s when I realize that he’s the wrong guy.
Now that I’m 30, I was going strong—crush-free! There were times when I look back over my life and saw how far I have come. As of now, I don’t have any crushes on any guys. I’m in the process of moving on in grace and focusing on better things. I even have thoughts that I was settling less than what I deserve just by having these crazy crushes on guys that aren’t worthy of me, and I admit it, I was. But through it all, it made me realize that every heartbreak I’ve had, God turned them into blessings. Every mess I’ve made, He turned them all into messages. God is so faithful, He turned a lot of things around just for my own good.
Now that I shared my true story about my experience of having crushes, I am going to lay down the basic steps along with Bible scriptures on getting over these crushes to move on without settling for less.
STEP 1: SHINE ON
If you happened to notice that your light is looking dim, don’t let it get you down. Encourage yourself to be the light God created you to be. Even if you feel under pressure, God will help you shine like a diamond. Read Psalm 18:28 and Matthew 5:14
STEP 2: BE CAUTIOUS WHO YOU LOVE
The next time you have a crush on another guy, you’ve got to be careful. Be very careful! You must always be very cautious for falling in love with the wrong guys simply because they’re the main ones who knows the right things to say. Regardless of how fine he is, how many scriptures he can quote, how gorgeous his eyes are, how handsome he dresses, or how angelic he sings, beware of the devil in disguise. Remember, the devil was an angel too! Read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 and Proverbs 13:20
STEP 3: KNOW THAT MAN IS NOT GOD
If you find yourself being obsessed with a guy that you have a crush on, you’re way out of control! You are idolizing this guy because when you lose control of yourself and give life to every feeling, you leave yourself defenseless. That’s exactly how your heart gets broken. A guy is NOT God and do NOT make a guy your god. For real, God does NOT tolerate rivals! Read Exodus 20:3-6 and Proverbs 25:28
STEP 4: HAVE A LITTLE ONE-ON-ONE WITH GOD
Once you realize what all you have done to prove your love to your crush and he doesn’t show you love in return because he’s in love with another girl, that’s your cue for letting go. You may be hurt and heartbroken but guess what. God can turn your heartbreak into a blessing, that’s His way of saving you from the wrong one! Cutting your crush loose can be very difficult, but if you really want to break free, have a little talk with God in secret. If you have any confessions, confess your sins and He will forgive you. Even if you felt like you are weak, ask God to strengthen you! No matter what, God is NEVER unfaithful, He is always, and will always be faithful so go to Him in prayer. Read Philippians 4:6, Colossians 4:2, 1 Thessalonians 5:17, and Matthew 6:7-8
STEP 5: NEVER GIVE ANY GUY ANY GIFTS IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM
The best way to give a gift is just be your own gift. Buy a special gift for yourself, not for a guy that you’re not in a relationship with. If you’re married to him, that’ll be different. But giving a gift to a guy you have crush on, it’s just a cheap shot, and it would be stinky if he doesn’t give you any gifts. Regardless, if it’s his birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas, the only gift that you can give a guy is patience & space. You should never try to control how he is yet evolving. You simply evolve too.
If he’s not interested in you at all, avoid giving him any gifts. On the real deal, there are some things you have to birth yourself because no guy can do it for you. Although a guy can see your worth, he can’t create it, you’re most definitely not dependent on him for it! It is God who has created in you the gifts worth valuing, and you are the one who develops those gifts. Read Galatians 4:19-20 and Philippians 1:6
STEP 6: AVOIDING THINGS THAT REMINDED YOU OF YOUR CRUSH
If you find yourself thinking about your crush, ask God to take charge of your thoughts. If you think that’s not enough, quote a few scriptures. While you’re at it, start by avoiding certain places that your crush be going to, avoid certain things that he does, and avoid him on any social network. Believe me, you do NOT want to tempt yourself. It’s not complicated if you keep on praying and trusting in God’s plan. For real, you can’t keep being wrapped up, tied up, tangled up to your ex-crush that’s gone on with his life. He doesn’t want you, you don’t want him. So there! Read 1 Corinthians 10:13
STEP 7: AVOID BRAGGING AND BOASTING
Even though it’s okay for you to have a crush on someone, bragging all the time about your crush can lead you to lose complete focus on certain things you should be focusing on is NOT okay. The truth of the matter is, bragging and boasting about your love interest can seriously make you lose your mind. If your crush has NOT done anything for you to prove his love for you in return and you’re bragging about him, then you’d be very foolish! He is not a prince among men so don’t brag and boast about him. If you want to brag about something, start bragging about what all God has done for you instead of your crush! Read Proverbs 27:2, Proverbs 25:14, Jeremiah 9:23, Matthew 6:1 and Jude 1:16
STEP 8: VALUE YOUR OWN VIRTUE
You must always know how valuable your own virtue is by how you’re respecting yourself. If you’re caught up in a competition with other girls, dressing provocative, and wishing your crush would notice you, remind yourself that you’re worth MORE than temporary attention from your crush who don’t plan to respect you. You don’t have to dress to impress just to get your crush’s attention especially when he’s NOT showing any genuine interest in you. Read 1 Corinthians 6:13 and Psalm 51:10
STEP 9: PUT IT IN WRITING
The better way to regroup yourself is to write about it. I’m not talking about writing all your secrets in your diary. I’m talking about writing out your blessings and prayers in your prayer notebook. That’s right, a prayer notebook! You don’t have to go overboard of getting a notebook. Just get yourself a nice little notebook that you like or you can decorate it and just start writing. Writing in your prayer notebook is like you’re having a conversation with God in secret instead of being in public. But if your crush or crushes starts popping up in your mind while you’re in the process of moving on, immediately write down some scriptures and prayers in your prayer notebook and you’ll be fine. Read Matthew 6:6
STEP 10: BE SATISFIED WITH WHAT YOU GOT
Forget about your crush! Trust me, there are times that you must forget about your ex-crush and start focusing on his bad qualities that turns you off completely. You really should be grateful for what you do have. You have a family that prays for you and loves you, you got real friends that got your back. What more do you want? If you got God, that’s good enough! Read Psalm 118:1-18, 1 Thessalonians 5:18, and Hebrews 12:28
STEP 11: ENJOY BEING SINGLE WITHOUT BEING LONELY
Like a preacher once said, “you can be single and not being lonely” and yes, that’s true. The biggest problem with most females is that they get desperate to have a man in their lives for various reasons such as cuddling, kissing and stuff like that. It’s like a frustrated wife wanting to bear her husband a baby just to make everything fine. A wife should know that she doesn’t try to have a baby just to make the situation better. She should get her situation straighten out first then she can think about having a baby. That goes for the single ladies. You shouldn’t try to have a man in your life to make your situation better. That’s what God’s timing is for: getting yourself together first before you think about having a man in your life. The way I see it, most females failed to learn how to be single without being lonely because they are afraid to be by themselves, like they’re so sick of being lonely. To me, that’s crazy. If you can’t learn how to be by yourself, how will you be able to handle yourself being in a relationship with someone else? Believe me, it takes a strong woman to say that she’d rather be by herself than to be in a relationship with the wrong man. And when some guy comes up to you and said, “You’re too beautiful to be single”, you tell him, “No! I’m too beautiful to be settling less than God’s highest and best!” Read 1 Corinthians 7:8 and 2 Corinthians 6:14
STEP 12: KNOW THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
God doesn’t care about your race, weight, height, hair color, gender your past decisions or anything of your physical appearance. He loves you! He accepts you for you. No matter what, in HIS eyes, you are beautiful. Everything that you are, it’s all because of HIM, and Him alone! You do not need validation from a man to know how worthy and beautiful you are. Validate yourself! Fill yourself with good positive truth. Read Psalm 139:14, 1 Peter 3:4, and 1 Samuel 16:7
STEP 13: HAVE HIGHER EXPECTATIONS FOR YOURSELF
In times like this, you’ve got to have higher expectations for yourself. A man who said they love you but you are not his girlfriend, A man who said they love you but they’re not really showing it, A man who said they love you but they’re blocking you on social media, he’s NOT worth your time or your attention. He’s not a prince among men and he’s certainly not a knight in shining armor. He’s a loser wrapped up in an aluminum foil. For real, you can do bad all by yourself simply because you have too much dignity for yourself, your morals and your state of mind to be settling less than what you deserve. Whatever you do, do not settle for less than God’s best!! Read Isaiah 55:2, Jeremiah 29:11, James 1:12,
and Hebrews 7:25
As I conclude, I pray that my experience will bless someone who are going through difficult times of getting over their crush and live a wonderful new life the way God wants His children to live.
I have a friend who has been around for decades. Everyone always say that she is a broad at times but there were times where she is sweet. My friend works three jobs: She’s a chef, a teacher, and a lawmaker. She is also very spiritual. Although her name isn’t mentioned in the Good Book, I dare not to compare her to the Heavenly Father because He has the power use anyone and anything in any way.
Let me explain why my friend is a chef, a teacher, and a lawmaker.
My friend is a chef of her own restaurant. When you come in to dine, don’t expect her to give you a menu because she doesn’t have any of them. You get served with what you deserve. The only dish that she best serves cold is Revenge. Trust me, it tastes sweet like homemade ice cream.
My friend is a teacher that can teach you a lesson about what it’s being said in the Good Book. She’s the type that NEVER lose an address. Your best out is to be very careful how you sow seeds because sooner or later, you will reap who you sow. If you can’t understand that, allow me to be briefer. Let’s say that you’ve planted an apple tree in your own back yard, and then you get mad because the apples start to grow on it. That means you reap what you sow. If you don’t think that it’s NOT in the Good Book, I dare you to open it, look up Job 4:8; Proverb 26:27; 2 Corinthians 5:10;
and Galatians 6:7.
So, you see, all that leads to the reason why my is a lawmaker, and here’s her law:
When birds are alive, they eat ants. When the birds die, the ants eat the birds.
One tree makes a million matchsticks. Only one matchstick is needed to burn down a million trees. You may be powerful now, but your circumstances can change. She is powerful. Don’t hurt anyone. Be good and do good.
Also, don’t forget the Golden Rule:
Always do for other people everything you want them to do for you (Matthew 7:12).
Now that I have told you all about my friend, I know that you probably know what her name is. But for those of you who good or bad things unto others, regardless of who you are, you all will come to know her well. She may be your friend, or she may be your enemy, her name is Karma.
Here’s what’s bothering me, and I might as well keep it REAL.
Now I’m NOT the type of woman who judge people based on their wealth, but I’m only going to be real about. A few minutes ago, I just got done watching a video on YouTube where it talks about Kandi bragging about spoiling her 16-year daughter with an expensive car for her birthday. Her husband Todd was upset about that because he felt like Kandi should’ve given her daughter an affordable car. Now I don’t know if it’s true, but it just seems like it’s true since everybody is talking about it. Anyway, like most wives, Kandi told Todd that she’s the boss with all the money and that he should mind his business.
Of course, there were certain people be saying things like: “Kandi can do whatever she wants with her own money.” “Todd needs to shut up and have several seats because he must’ve forgotten that Kandi bought him an expensive car for his birthday.” But most of the people was like: “Todd got a point. What would happen when some thug comes by and takes Kandi’s daughter’s expensive car away from her? The girl is not old enough to drive an expensive car.” “Todd has a point, it’s really not safe for their daughter to be driving such an expensive car, being she just turned 16. Come on Kandi, young people have lost their lives cause some thug was waiting to catch them at the right time to take it,
Riley is too young yet to know when she’s slipping. May God have mercy on this baby’s life, it’s not good to give your children everything, they’ll feel better and be more responsible if they work for what they want in life, they’ll really appreciate it too.”
Now Kandi and Todd have been married for 5 years and talks about “I’m the boss of this house.” What Kandi needs to understand is when you marry, that means “I” become “we”. Although Kandi had her daughter before the marriage, Kandi should have discussed this with Todd before making a decision. It’s like in Tyler Perry’s movie Why Did I Get Married? The scene where Terry confronted Diane about not telling him that she had her tubes tied. Terry told her when you give up the I’s, you give up the I’s for us. You don’t make any kind of decisions without talking to your spouse about it. What he’s saying is that when you enter a marriage before God almighty, there is no more “I”. If you want to remain “I”, then you should not be married. Now back to the manuscript.
At this point, I don’t know what Kandi was thinking when she starts bragging and showing off her business of buying an expensive car for her daughter’s birthday on social media, but I agree with what the majority of the people were saying about certain responsibilities of handling any kind of expensive car. But the same time, I started to realize
I found myself thinking about last year about how everyone was dragging Kendrick Lamar by the hair just because he was buying her sister an affordable car for her graduation gift instead of buying her Mercedes Benz. I was bothered by that
because I tweeted: “It’s funny how everybody’s going bananas over Kandi buying her daughter an expensive car, but last year everybody was talking trash about Kendrick Lamar being cheap for buying his sister an affordable car. But you know what? That’s their business, not mine! #RealTalk 🐸☕️” I know you probably thinking to yourself, “What does Kendrick Lamar got to do with Kandi?” Well, I’ll pour you the tea
to keep it real about it.
Both individuals bought cars but it’s only one of them who was bragging and boasting about what kind of car the person bought and there’s only one of them that is not bragging and boasting about what kind of car the person bought. The person who didn’t brag and boast about buying a car for his sister is Kendrick Lamar. And the other person is Kandi. What that does that tell you? It should tell you to learn how to shut up, sit down and be humble. Yeah, that’s what Kendrick said, “Sit Down, Be humble.”
See Kandi? She wasn’t really being humble. If I were her, I’d keep that to myself and bragging about it on the internet. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with buying nice things but still you have to have the Book and Brains. Now if you can afford buying a Porcha, a Mercedes Benz, a Lamborghini, or any kind of expensive car, could you afford to pay thousands of dollars worth a car note? Could you afford to spend thousands of dollars on putting gas in your expensive car? I mean, let’s get REAL!!
Whatever Kandi does with her money is her business, but that doesn’t mean she get to brag and show off on social media buying her daughter an expensive car for her 16th birthday is NOT going to solve any issue. I mean, you got people dreaming thinking they were so wealthy and waking up in the morning realizing they’re broke. It may sound funny, but it’s the truth. For real, You got people out there that are struggling, trying to make ends meet without any help from anybody, but you got folks out that got big money, living ghetto fabulous and too stuck up to help those who are in need. To go little deeper, you got people out there who did NOT get a car for their birthdays, you got people out there who did not get a car as a graduation gift, you got people who did not get a car for their wedding anniversaries, and you even got people who did not get a car for Christmas! So what give anybody of the right to complain about it?!
Let’s face it: When I see females looking rough, nails not done, hair not done,
not fitted clothes etc., I do NOT assume she’s broke. I assume she’s just paid her rent, bills, car note, house note, and taking care of her kids before she spent her money on a Mercedes Benz, Harry Winston jewelry, a 2-story house etc.
For REAL, you can get on social media and brag about what you did and show off all your riches, but just remember one thing: Bragging about what you did and what you got without giving GOD all the credit is a definite NO-NO. All of us will have to seek judgment one day so it’s our best out is to make sure that once God calls us home, we do NOT owe God ANYTHING! And that’s why we all need to learn how to Shut Up, Sit Down, & Be Humble!!
If someone ask a question of why I wear a tiara occasionally, I will now explain my reason for wearing a tiara and why I love it.
It all started when I was in middle school. I have dreams of wearing a tiara one day. Although I didn’t get the chance to be on the homecoming court, I was having high hopes of getting that crown on my head. Even though I called myself being a queen or a princess, the kids would bully me so terribly saying that I’m not a queen and I’ll never be queen. That did bother me at that time, but I didn’t give up.
When my 12th birthday came, I wore a tiara that’s made of plastic covered with silver cuffings. Don’t get me wrong, I did like it but it wouldn’t last longer for me to wear. Unfortunately, it got ruined when I accidentally spilled my drink on it. I was most upset about it. But then, when I was in the 8th grade, I’ve received a treat from my middle school principal. Because I wasn’t getting into trouble in school, I was rewarded to go on a field trip to the Aquarium in New Orleans. Of course, I was very pleased, and I was looking forward to New Orleans. When I told my mother about it, she was very pleased, and she ended up giving me enough money for me to spend while I’m in New Orleans. The Aquarium was very exciting and once my classmates were done, we went shopping at a mall right next to the Aquarium. We all divided into groups and my group went over to the little store called Claire’s. To tell you the truth, I fell in love with Clarie’s because of the bling-blings! As we all looked around, I came across a tiara that captured my eyes. So, I purchased the tiara and went from there. I wanted to wear it, but I was too shy. My friends and my teacher suggested that I should wear it, and sure enough, I wore it. I felt like a princess wearing it.
I have been wearing my first real tiara very seldom. I wore it when I was in the church play at Vacation Bible School, and I wore it when I was doing worship dancing for a Christmas program. It was great until I’m starting to have issues with the tiara. The metal combs of the tiara were really making my head sore. It really bothered my scalp! I had no choice but to stop wearing it and find another tiara that is comfortable for me to wear.
Finally, I made it to high school. This time, I wasn’t too desperate of wearing a tiara because I was too busy worrying about my schoolwork, dealing with seniors and juniors being all on my throat about what to do and what not to do, having crushes on the wrongs guys, and getting bullied.
But one night when I was at home, I found myself going into a prom website on my computer. I went there just to take a peep at different things. But when I saw tiaras, I immediately got lucky. I’ve never seen so many tiaras before. Some were very beautiful, and there were some that are not so pretty. I wanted to purchase one so badly, but I didn’t have any money. Not a check, not a prepaid card. Nada. But surprisingly, I ended up getting a tiara in the mail coming from the prom website. The tiara was called Cinderella, and it was the most beautiful crown I’ve ever seen. Once I got the tiara, I was going to wear it to the formal events such as Military Balls and Prom. But unfortunately, my second tiara was ruined. Once again, I was most upset. Honestly, I already knew wasn’t going to be crowned as homecoming queen or prom princess anyway, so I wasn’t bothered by that.
One day, I was going on a trip to Houston, Texas for the Battle of the Bands competition. To keep myself and my band mates from being bored, we all went shopping. My friends and I went to different stores, but the store I really love to shop was Claire’s. When I went to Claire’s, I came across some tiaras. I didn’t want to get the kind that’s uncomfortable, so I decided to get the smaller tiara comb. I bought it and I went on shopping.
One Sunday, I attended church for a special event. When the guest choir was singing, I saw a young lady wearing a small pearl tiara comb. The next Sunday was Homecoming, and I saw a lady wearing a tiara. I thought to myself, “If the ladies can wear tiaras to church, maybe I can wear mine too. I wore a tiara when I was dancing for the Christmas Program and I wore a tiara when I was in the church play so what’s stopping me from wearing my tiara?” And sure enough, I started wearing my tiaras to church. I enjoy wearing tiaras occasionally, but there are days when I don’t wear tiaras. I do NOT wear tiaras when I go to bed, I do NOT wear it when I go to weddings, and I do NOT wear tiaras when my hair is a total mess. That make sense to me!
Still to this day, I wear my tiara at home. The tiara I bought for my 31st birthday, I only wear it at home and I call it my Thinking Crown, and I wear it whenever I’m writing poetry, morals stories, blog entries, and journalizing prayers in my prayer notebook. Yes, I’m in my early 30s and I’m NOT afraid to wear my tiaras!
Now that I have told you my story about why I start wearing tiaras, I will tell the REAL reason why I believe that wearing tiaras is appropriate.
Tiaras are appropriate to wear simply because they’re more than hair accessories. Tiaras are crowns. It gives true meaning of the words “elegance”, “grace”, and “sophistication”. Spiritually and biblically, a tiara is a crown spoken by Apostle Paul and John as a symbol of victory in Christian living.
Matthew 27:29 stated that they twisted some thorns into a crown, placed it on Jesus’ head, and put a stick in his right hand. They knelt in front of him and made fun of him by saying, “Long live the king of the Jews!”
2 Timothy 4:8 stated that the prize that shows I have God’s approval is now waiting for me. The Lord, who is a fair judge, will give me that prize on that day. He will give it not only to me but also to everyone who is eagerly waiting for him to come again.
And Revelation 2:10 stated that you must be faithful until death, and God will give you the crown of life.
I want to encourage you to not be afraid to wear your tiara. It doesn’t matter what size or what shape it is, just wear it! Once you wear it, you will know for yourself that you are royalty. I’m not talking about royalty like in the United Kingdom. I’m talking about royalty of the Heavenly Father. Yes, you are the daughter of the King of Kings, all girls are. Even when you weren’t a homecoming queen, even when you weren’t a prom princess, even when you weren’t in a Miss America Beauty Pageant, even when you weren’t a Miss Baptist Church Pageant, even when you’re living in tiny old attics, even when you’re dressed in rags, even you aren’t pretty, or smart, or young, or old, you’re still have God’s royal blood in your veins! Every female does. Even though your tiara maybe tilted or your crown maybe crooked, nobody’s perfect. Being a queen, a princess, a duchess, or whatever royalty you called yourself is NEVER easy, but with God, nothing is impossible.
Once you wear your tiara, let it be a reminder that you are a daughter of an Almighty God. You are a princess destined to become a Queen! Your story has only just begun. For He knows the plans He has for you, you are beautiful. You are sacred. You are treasured. You are HIS! He crowns you with glory and honor. He gives you authority (Psalm 8).
Let your tiara be a reminder that you will be a crown of beauty in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God (Isaiah 62:3). Let your tiara be a reminder that wisdom will give you a garland to grace your head and present you with a glorious crown (Proverbs 4:9). And, let your tiara be a reminder that out of all the people on the face of the earth, the LORD has chosen you to be His treasured possession (Deuteronomy 14:2).
Wear your crown with joy! Wear your shining robe of righteousness. Walk in the light God has given you. You are rescued. You are saved, you are HIS, the daughter of the King of Kings.