How Did I Get Over My Crushes?

When I was in high school, I called myself having a serious crush on a guy. I was young, naïve, and immature because I didn’t know anything about love just like I didn’t know anything about him. The only thing I know is that he’s charming and he was in the 12th grade. I never thought I’d be going crazy in love with this guy knowing that he’s already taken. I admit it, I did call myself giving him gifts and stuff like that, and what did I get from him? Nothing. Not a gift, not a date, nada…all I got were pictures…just pictures.

But when it comes to the last straw, that’s my cue of waking up. One day I was on my way to class. I was told from his class mates that he said that if I want to be his girlfriend, I need to pull my grades up. I was in total shock and I wasn’t expecting it. But here’s the funny part. On the day when I was receiving my progress report card, it turns out that I have better grades. The minute when his classmates saw what my progress report card was, the guy was embarrassed. His grades didn’t look too good at all and the only thing he’d say is that my grades looks better than his. I asked myself, “How is this fool giving me an ultimatum about pulling my grades up when his grades look like garbage?” I even told myself, “It looks like I didn’t have to pull my grades up to be his girlfriend after all, and his classmates didn’t have to tell me what he had said when knowing he could’ve been man enough to tell me himself.” To make matters worse, the guy had the gall to call me Satan’s Child. Right away, I realized that I’m better than that. I’m MORE than that. And that lets me know that I shouldn’t feed the need I have for this guy because he’s not worth my time nor my attention. And that’s when I decided to cut him loose. I didn’t want to admit it, but I knew that I was falling in love with the wrong guy.

I’ve spend days and months feeling helpless and I ended up blaming myself. I thought, “If I haven’t been so much in love with this dirt bag, I wouldn’t be in this mess. My mother already warned me to not let that boy make a fool out of me, and now look what happened.” It’s true, I should’ve known better. I’ve been spending way too much time loving this dirt bag than focusing on my education. As the years went by, I haven’t been in contact with him since my 20th birthday as well as facebooking.

At age 26, I ended up having a crush on another guy. I’ve been knowing this one since high school. He was a 9th grader and I was a 12th grader. We have been facebooking each other and texting each time to time and in 2012, that’s when I broke the news to him. I told him that I have a crush on him and I didn’t want to come between him, his family, and his career. And lo, and behold, he didn’t have any genuine interest in me just by telling me that he already knew I had feelings for him and that he only sees me as a friend. I was disappointed and I took things way too far just by being too friendly to him. Once again, I was naïve that my mother warned me not to let another guy make a fool out of me. But this time, he was NOT showing her or me any interest. As foolish as I was, I was always bragging about him and gave him a card for Valentine’s Day. But what did he give me in return? Nothing! Not even a thing.

Years later, I have discovered his true colors when he started to change. That’s when I found out that he was in a long-distance relationship with a girl who lives far away. I was upset and I never thought that I’d be going down this dirty path all over again. A few years ago, his new girlfriend and I bonded well on social media but things became very complicated for me to bare. When she started flaunting my 2nd ex-crush all over the Internet, I decided to distance myself and start getting my focus back on what I should be focusing on, and that’s on God. I felt like I’m bittersweet but I realize that I’m still blessed because it was God’s plan to turn my heartbreak into a blessing. During that time, I have no communication with the guy ever again. No birthday text, no holiday text, nothing. And that’s my cue for moving on.

Things were going smooth until I ended up having another crush on another guy for the last time. This time, it was only a test. When I was 29, I secretly had a crush on a guy that is my former high school bandmate. I’ve been liking, sharing, and commenting almost everything on facebook but I was being cautious because I remembered what happened when I had hard crushes to two different guys and I didn’t want to be naïve and looking foolish any more than I already have. This guy never calls or text me but he has been facebooking me very seldom. When I found out that he’s in a relationship with someone else, I had no choice but to respectfully cut him loose. That’s when I realize that he’s the wrong guy.

Now that I’m 30, I was going strong—crush-free! There were times when I look back over my life and saw how far I have come. As of now, I don’t have any crushes on any guys. I’m in the process of moving on in grace and focusing on better things. I even have thoughts that I was settling less than what I deserve just by having these crazy crushes on guys that aren’t worthy of me, and I admit it, I was. But through it all, it made me realize that every heartbreak I’ve had, God turned them into blessings. Every mess I’ve made, He turned them all into messages. God is so faithful, He turned a lot of things around just for my own good.

Now that I shared my true story about my experience of having crushes, I am going to lay down the basic steps along with Bible scriptures on getting over these crushes to move on without settling for less.

STEP 1: SHINE ON
If you happened to notice that your light is looking dim, don’t let it get you down. Encourage yourself to be the light God created you to be. Even if you feel under pressure, God will help you shine like a diamond. Read Psalm 18:28 and Matthew 5:14

STEP 2: BE CAUTIOUS WHO YOU LOVE
The next time you have a crush on another guy, you’ve got to be careful. Be very careful! You must always be very cautious for falling in love with the wrong guys simply because they’re the main ones who knows the right things to say. Regardless of how fine he is, how many scriptures he can quote, how gorgeous his eyes are, how handsome he dresses, or how angelic he sings, beware of the devil in disguise. Remember, the devil was an angel too! Read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 and Proverbs 13:20

STEP 3: KNOW THAT MAN IS NOT GOD
If you find yourself being obsessed with a guy that you have a crush on, you’re way out of control! You are idolizing this guy because when you lose control of yourself and give life to every feeling, you leave yourself defenseless. That’s exactly how your heart gets broken. A guy is NOT God and do NOT make a guy your god. For real, God does NOT tolerate rivals! Read Exodus 20:3-6 and Proverbs 25:28

STEP 4: HAVE A LITTLE ONE-ON-ONE WITH GOD
Once you realize what all you have done to prove your love to your crush and he doesn’t show you love in return because he’s in love with another girl, that’s your cue for letting go. You may be hurt and heartbroken but guess what. God can turn your heartbreak into a blessing, that’s His way of saving you from the wrong one! Cutting your crush loose can be very difficult, but if you really want to break free, have a little talk with God in secret. If you have any confessions, confess your sins and He will forgive you. Even if you felt like you are weak, ask God to strengthen you! No matter what, God is NEVER unfaithful, He is always, and will always be faithful so go to Him in prayer. Read Philippians 4:6, Colossians 4:2, 1 Thessalonians 5:17, and Matthew 6:7-8

STEP 5: NEVER GIVE ANY GUY ANY GIFTS IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM
The best way to give a gift is just be your own gift. Buy a special gift for yourself, not for a guy that you’re not in a relationship with. If you’re married to him, that’ll be different. But giving a gift to a guy you have crush on, it’s just a cheap shot, and it would be stinky if he doesn’t give you any gifts. Regardless, if it’s his birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas, the only gift that you can give a guy is patience & space. You should never try to control how he is yet evolving. You simply evolve too.
If he’s not interested in you at all, avoid giving him any gifts. On the real deal, there are some things you have to birth yourself because no guy can do it for you. Although a guy can see your worth, he can’t create it, you’re most definitely not dependent on him for it! It is God who has created in you the gifts worth valuing, and you are the one who develops those gifts. Read Galatians 4:19-20 and Philippians 1:6

STEP 6: AVOIDING THINGS THAT REMINDED YOU OF YOUR CRUSH
If you find yourself thinking about your crush, ask God to take charge of your thoughts. If you think that’s not enough, quote a few scriptures. While you’re at it, start by avoiding certain places that your crush be going to, avoid certain things that he does, and avoid him on any social network. Believe me, you do NOT want to tempt yourself. It’s not complicated if you keep on praying and trusting in God’s plan. For real, you can’t keep being wrapped up, tied up, tangled up to your ex-crush that’s gone on with his life. He doesn’t want you, you don’t want him. So there! Read 1 Corinthians 10:13

STEP 7: AVOID BRAGGING AND BOASTING
Even though it’s okay for you to have a crush on someone, bragging all the time about your crush can lead you to lose complete focus on certain things you should be focusing on is NOT okay. The truth of the matter is, bragging and boasting about your love interest can seriously make you lose your mind. If your crush has NOT done anything for you to prove his love for you in return and you’re bragging about him, then you’d be very foolish! He is not a prince among men so don’t brag and boast about him. If you want to brag about something, start bragging about what all God has done for you instead of your crush! Read Proverbs 27:2, Proverbs 25:14, Jeremiah 9:23, Matthew 6:1 and Jude 1:16

STEP 8: VALUE YOUR OWN VIRTUE
You must always know how valuable your own virtue is by how you’re respecting yourself. If you’re caught up in a competition with other girls, dressing provocative, and wishing your crush would notice you, remind yourself that you’re worth MORE than temporary attention from your crush who don’t plan to respect you. You don’t have to dress to impress just to get your crush’s attention especially when he’s NOT showing any genuine interest in you. Read 1 Corinthians 6:13 and Psalm 51:10

STEP 9: PUT IT IN WRITING
The better way to regroup yourself is to write about it. I’m not talking about writing all your secrets in your diary. I’m talking about writing out your blessings and prayers in your prayer notebook. That’s right, a prayer notebook! You don’t have to go overboard of getting a notebook. Just get yourself a nice little notebook that you like or you can decorate it and just start writing. Writing in your prayer notebook is like you’re having a conversation with God in secret instead of being in public. But if your crush or crushes starts popping up in your mind while you’re in the process of moving on, immediately write down some scriptures and prayers in your prayer notebook and you’ll be fine. Read Matthew 6:6

STEP 10: BE SATISFIED WITH WHAT YOU GOT
Forget about your crush! Trust me, there are times that you must forget about your ex-crush and start focusing on his bad qualities that turns you off completely. You really should be grateful for what you do have. You have a family that prays for you and loves you, you got real friends that got your back. What more do you want? If you got God, that’s good enough! Read Psalm 118:1-18, 1 Thessalonians 5:18, and Hebrews 12:28

STEP 11: ENJOY BEING SINGLE WITHOUT BEING LONELY
Like a preacher once said, “you can be single and not being lonely” and yes, that’s true. The biggest problem with most females is that they get desperate to have a man in their lives for various reasons such as cuddling, kissing and stuff like that. It’s like a frustrated wife wanting to bear her husband a baby just to make everything fine. A wife should know that she doesn’t try to have a baby just to make the situation better. She should get her situation straighten out first then she can think about having a baby. That goes for the single ladies. You shouldn’t try to have a man in your life to make your situation better. That’s what God’s timing is for: getting yourself together first before you think about having a man in your life. The way I see it, most females failed to learn how to be single without being lonely because they are afraid to be by themselves, like they’re so sick of being lonely. To me, that’s crazy. If you can’t learn how to be by yourself, how will you be able to handle yourself being in a relationship with someone else? Believe me, it takes a strong woman to say that she’d rather be by herself than to be in a relationship with the wrong man. And when some guy comes up to you and said, “You’re too beautiful to be single”, you tell him, “No! I’m too beautiful to be settling less than God’s highest and best!” Read 1 Corinthians 7:8 and 2 Corinthians 6:14

STEP 12: KNOW THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
God doesn’t care about your race, weight, height, hair color, gender your past decisions or anything of your physical appearance. He loves you! He accepts you for you. No matter what, in HIS eyes, you are beautiful. Everything that you are, it’s all because of HIM, and Him alone! You do not need validation from a man to know how worthy and beautiful you are. Validate yourself! Fill yourself with good positive truth. Read Psalm 139:14, 1 Peter 3:4, and 1 Samuel 16:7

STEP 13: HAVE HIGHER EXPECTATIONS FOR YOURSELF
In times like this, you’ve got to have higher expectations for yourself. A man who said they love you but you are not his girlfriend, A man who said they love you but they’re not really showing it, A man who said they love you but they’re blocking you on social media, he’s NOT worth your time or your attention. He’s not a prince among men and he’s certainly not a knight in shining armor. He’s a loser wrapped up in an aluminum foil. For real, you can do bad all by yourself simply because you have too much dignity for yourself, your morals and your state of mind to be settling less than what you deserve. Whatever you do, do not settle for less than God’s best!! Read Isaiah 55:2, Jeremiah 29:11, James 1:12,
and Hebrews 7:25

As I conclude, I pray that my experience will bless someone who are going through difficult times of getting over their crush and live a wonderful new life the way God wants His children to live.

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INTRODUCING KARMA

I have a friend who has been around for decades. Everyone always say that she is a broad at times but there were times where she is sweet. My friend works three jobs: She’s a chef, a teacher, and a lawmaker. She is also very spiritual. Although her name isn’t mentioned in the Good Book, I dare not to compare her to the Heavenly Father because He has the power use anyone and anything in any way.

Let me explain why my friend is a chef, a teacher, and a lawmaker.

My friend is a chef of her own restaurant. When you come in to dine, don’t expect her to give you a menu because she doesn’t have any of them. You get served with what you deserve. The only dish that she best serves cold is Revenge. Trust me, it tastes sweet like homemade ice cream.

My friend is a teacher that can teach you a lesson about what it’s being said in the Good Book. She’s the type that NEVER lose an address. Your best out is to be very careful how you sow seeds because sooner or later, you will reap who you sow. If you can’t understand that, allow me to be briefer. Let’s say that you’ve planted an apple tree in your own back yard, and then you get mad because the apples start to grow on it. That means you reap what you sow. If you don’t think that it’s NOT in the Good Book, I dare you to open it, look up Job 4:8; Proverb 26:27; 2 Corinthians 5:10;
and Galatians 6:7.

So, you see, all that leads to the reason why my is a lawmaker, and here’s her law:
When birds are alive, they eat ants. When the birds die, the ants eat the birds.
One tree makes a million matchsticks. Only one matchstick is needed to burn down a million trees. You may be powerful now, but your circumstances can change. She is powerful. Don’t hurt anyone. Be good and do good.

Also, don’t forget the Golden Rule:
Always do for other people everything you want them to do for you (Matthew 7:12).

Now that I have told you all about my friend, I know that you probably know what her name is. But for those of you who good or bad things unto others, regardless of who you are, you all will come to know her well. She may be your friend, or she may be your enemy, her name is Karma.

KEEPING IT REAL: KANDI SPOILING HER DAUGHTER WITH AN EXPENSIVE CAR

Here’s what’s bothering me, and I might as well keep it REAL.
Now I’m NOT the type of woman who judge people based on their wealth, but I’m only going to be real about. A few minutes ago, I just got done watching a video on YouTube where it talks about Kandi bragging about spoiling her 16-year daughter with an expensive car for her birthday. Her husband Todd was upset about that because he felt like Kandi should’ve given her daughter an affordable car. Now I don’t know if it’s true, but it just seems like it’s true since everybody is talking about it. Anyway, like most wives, Kandi told Todd that she’s the boss with all the money and that he should mind his business.

Of course, there were certain people be saying things like: “Kandi can do whatever she wants with her own money.” “Todd needs to shut up and have several seats because he must’ve forgotten that Kandi bought him an expensive car for his birthday.” But most of the people was like: “Todd got a point. What would happen when some thug comes by and takes Kandi’s daughter’s expensive car away from her? The girl is not old enough to drive an expensive car.” “Todd has a point, it’s really not safe for their daughter to be driving such an expensive car, being she just turned 16. Come on Kandi, young people have lost their lives cause some thug was waiting to catch them at the right time to take it,
Riley is too young yet to know when she’s slipping. May God have mercy on this baby’s life, it’s not good to give your children everything, they’ll feel better and be more responsible if they work for what they want in life, they’ll really appreciate it too.”

Now Kandi and Todd have been married for 5 years and talks about “I’m the boss of this house.” What Kandi needs to understand is when you marry, that means “I” become “we”. Although Kandi had her daughter before the marriage, Kandi should have discussed this with Todd before making a decision. It’s like in Tyler Perry’s movie Why Did I Get Married? The scene where Terry confronted Diane about not telling him that she had her tubes tied. Terry told her when you give up the I’s, you give up the I’s for us. You don’t make any kind of decisions without talking to your spouse about it. What he’s saying is that when you enter a marriage before God almighty, there is no more “I”. If you want to remain “I”, then you should not be married. Now back to the manuscript.

At this point, I don’t know what Kandi was thinking when she starts bragging and showing off her business of buying an expensive car for her daughter’s birthday on social media, but I agree with what the majority of the people were saying about certain responsibilities of handling any kind of expensive car. But the same time, I started to realize
something.

I found myself thinking about last year about how everyone was dragging Kendrick Lamar by the hair just because he was buying her sister an affordable car for her graduation gift instead of buying her Mercedes Benz. I was bothered by that
because I tweeted: “It’s funny how everybody’s going bananas over Kandi buying her daughter an expensive car, but last year everybody was talking trash about Kendrick Lamar being cheap for buying his sister an affordable car. But you know what? That’s their business, not mine! #RealTalk 🐸☕️” I know you probably thinking to yourself, “What does Kendrick Lamar got to do with Kandi?” Well, I’ll pour you the tea
to keep it real about it.

Both individuals bought cars but it’s only one of them who was bragging and boasting about what kind of car the person bought and there’s only one of them that is not bragging and boasting about what kind of car the person bought. The person who didn’t brag and boast about buying a car for his sister is Kendrick Lamar. And the other person is Kandi. What that does that tell you? It should tell you to learn how to shut up, sit down and be humble. Yeah, that’s what Kendrick said, “Sit Down, Be humble.”

See Kandi? She wasn’t really being humble. If I were her, I’d keep that to myself and bragging about it on the internet. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with buying nice things but still you have to have the Book and Brains. Now if you can afford buying a Porcha, a Mercedes Benz, a Lamborghini, or any kind of expensive car, could you afford to pay thousands of dollars worth a car note? Could you afford to spend thousands of dollars on putting gas in your expensive car? I mean, let’s get REAL!!

Whatever Kandi does with her money is her business, but that doesn’t mean she get to brag and show off on social media buying her daughter an expensive car for her 16th birthday is NOT going to solve any issue. I mean, you got people dreaming thinking they were so wealthy and waking up in the morning realizing they’re broke. It may sound funny, but it’s the truth. For real, You got people out there that are struggling, trying to make ends meet without any help from anybody, but you got folks out that got big money, living ghetto fabulous and too stuck up to help those who are in need. To go little deeper, you got people out there who did NOT get a car for their birthdays, you got people out there who did not get a car as a graduation gift, you got people who did not get a car for their wedding anniversaries, and you even got people who did not get a car for Christmas! So what give anybody of the right to complain about it?!

Let’s face it: When I see females looking rough, nails not done, hair not done,
not fitted clothes etc., I do NOT assume she’s broke. I assume she’s just paid her rent, bills, car note, house note, and taking care of her kids before she spent her money on a Mercedes Benz, Harry Winston jewelry, a 2-story house etc.

For REAL, you can get on social media and brag about what you did and show off all your riches, but just remember one thing: Bragging about what you did and what you got without giving GOD all the credit is a definite NO-NO. All of us will have to seek judgment one day so it’s our best out is to make sure that once God calls us home, we do NOT owe God ANYTHING! And that’s why we all need to learn how to Shut Up, Sit Down, & Be Humble!!

CONFESSIONS OF THE TIARA

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If someone ask a question of why I wear a tiara occasionally, I will now explain my reason for wearing a tiara and why I love it.

It all started when I was in middle school. I have dreams of wearing a tiara one day. Although I didn’t get the chance to be on the homecoming court, I was having high hopes of getting that crown on my head. Even though I called myself being a queen or a princess, the kids would bully me so terribly saying that I’m not a queen and I’ll never be queen. That did bother me at that time, but I didn’t give up.

When my 12th birthday came, I wore a tiara that’s made of plastic covered with silver cuffings. Don’t get me wrong, I did like it but it wouldn’t last longer for me to wear. Unfortunately, it got ruined when I accidentally spilled my drink on it. I was most upset about it. But then, when I was in the 8th grade, I’ve received a treat from my middle school principal. Because I wasn’t getting into trouble in school, I was rewarded to go on a field trip to the Aquarium in New Orleans. Of course, I was very pleased, and I was looking forward to New Orleans. When I told my mother about it, she was very pleased, and she ended up giving me enough money for me to spend while I’m in New Orleans. The Aquarium was very exciting and once my classmates were done, we went shopping at a mall right next to the Aquarium. We all divided into groups and my group went over to the little store called Claire’s. To tell you the truth, I fell in love with Clarie’s because of the bling-blings! As we all looked around, I came across a tiara that captured my eyes. So, I purchased the tiara and went from there. I wanted to wear it, but I was too shy. My friends and my teacher suggested that I should wear it, and sure enough, I wore it. I felt like a princess wearing it.

I have been wearing my first real tiara very seldom. I wore it when I was in the church play at Vacation Bible School, and I wore it when I was doing worship dancing for a Christmas program. It was great until I’m starting to have issues with the tiara. The metal combs of the tiara were really making my head sore. It really bothered my scalp! I had no choice but to stop wearing it and find another tiara that is comfortable for me to wear.

Finally, I made it to high school. This time, I wasn’t too desperate of wearing a tiara because I was too busy worrying about my schoolwork, dealing with seniors and juniors being all on my throat about what to do and what not to do, having crushes on the wrongs guys, and getting bullied.

But one night when I was at home, I found myself going into a prom website on my computer. I went there just to take a peep at different things. But when I saw tiaras, I immediately got lucky. I’ve never seen so many tiaras before. Some were very beautiful, and there were some that are not so pretty. I wanted to purchase one so badly, but I didn’t have any money. Not a check, not a prepaid card. Nada. But surprisingly, I ended up getting a tiara in the mail coming from the prom website. The tiara was called Cinderella, and it was the most beautiful crown I’ve ever seen. Once I got the tiara, I was going to wear it to the formal events such as Military Balls and Prom. But unfortunately, my second tiara was ruined. Once again, I was most upset. Honestly, I already knew wasn’t going to be crowned as homecoming queen or prom princess anyway, so I wasn’t bothered by that.

One day, I was going on a trip to Houston, Texas for the Battle of the Bands competition. To keep myself and my band mates from being bored, we all went shopping. My friends and I went to different stores, but the store I really love to shop was Claire’s. When I went to Claire’s, I came across some tiaras. I didn’t want to get the kind that’s uncomfortable, so I decided to get the smaller tiara comb. I bought it and I went on shopping.

One Sunday, I attended church for a special event. When the guest choir was singing, I saw a young lady wearing a small pearl tiara comb. The next Sunday was Homecoming, and I saw a lady wearing a tiara. I thought to myself, “If the ladies can wear tiaras to church, maybe I can wear mine too. I wore a tiara when I was dancing for the Christmas Program and I wore a tiara when I was in the church play so what’s stopping me from wearing my tiara?” And sure enough, I started wearing my tiaras to church. I enjoy wearing tiaras occasionally, but there are days when I don’t wear tiaras. I do NOT wear tiaras when I go to bed, I do NOT wear it when I go to weddings, and I do NOT wear tiaras when my hair is a total mess. That make sense to me!

Still to this day, I wear my tiara at home. The tiara I bought for my 31st birthday, I only wear it at home and I call it my Thinking Crown, and I wear it whenever I’m writing poetry, morals stories, blog entries, and journalizing prayers in my prayer notebook. Yes, I’m in my early 30s and I’m NOT afraid to wear my tiaras!

Now that I have told you my story about why I start wearing tiaras, I will tell the REAL reason why I believe that wearing tiaras is appropriate.

Tiaras are appropriate to wear simply because they’re more than hair accessories. Tiaras are crowns. It gives true meaning of the words “elegance”, “grace”, and “sophistication”. Spiritually and biblically, a tiara is a crown spoken by Apostle Paul and John as a symbol of victory in Christian living.

Matthew 27:29 stated that they twisted some thorns into a crown, placed it on Jesus’ head, and put a stick in his right hand. They knelt in front of him and made fun of him by saying, “Long live the king of the Jews!”

2 Timothy 4:8 stated that the prize that shows I have God’s approval is now waiting for me. The Lord, who is a fair judge, will give me that prize on that day. He will give it not only to me but also to everyone who is eagerly waiting for him to come again.

And Revelation 2:10 stated that you must be faithful until death, and God will give you the crown of life.

I want to encourage you to not be afraid to wear your tiara. It doesn’t matter what size or what shape it is, just wear it! Once you wear it, you will know for yourself that you are royalty. I’m not talking about royalty like in the United Kingdom. I’m talking about royalty of the Heavenly Father. Yes, you are the daughter of the King of Kings, all girls are. Even when you weren’t a homecoming queen, even when you weren’t a prom princess, even when you weren’t in a Miss America Beauty Pageant, even when you weren’t a Miss Baptist Church Pageant, even when you’re living in tiny old attics, even when you’re dressed in rags, even you aren’t pretty, or smart, or young, or old, you’re still have God’s royal blood in your veins! Every female does. Even though your tiara maybe tilted or your crown maybe crooked, nobody’s perfect. Being a queen, a princess, a duchess, or whatever royalty you called yourself is NEVER easy, but with God, nothing is impossible.

Once you wear your tiara, let it be a reminder that you are a daughter of an Almighty God. You are a princess destined to become a Queen! Your story has only just begun. For He knows the plans He has for you, you are beautiful. You are sacred. You are treasured. You are HIS! He crowns you with glory and honor. He gives you authority (Psalm 8).

Let your tiara be a reminder that you will be a crown of beauty in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God (Isaiah 62:3). Let your tiara be a reminder that wisdom will give you a garland to grace your head and present you with a glorious crown (Proverbs 4:9). And, let your tiara be a reminder that out of all the people on the face of the earth, the LORD has chosen you to be His treasured possession (Deuteronomy 14:2).

Wear your crown with joy! Wear your shining robe of righteousness. Walk in the light God has given you. You are rescued. You are saved, you are HIS, the daughter of the King of Kings.

Why People Rushing to Find Love???

One of the things that I don’t understand is why is it that everybody are so desperate for love? Why even rush love?

Every time I tune in to Killerpost, Snapped, Grave Mystery, Hashtag Murder, For My Man, and Web of Lies, all I see are desperate people doing all kinds of crazy, stupid things for love. It’s bad enough that there are internet snakes coming after young children who are acting like they’re grown.

What’s wrong with this picture is that there are way too many people looking for love in all the wrong places and dating on the internet is one of them.
The real reason why most people rushing to find love is because they’re not learning how to love themselves enough to be by themselves. For real, that’s the
problem. It’s crazy as hell! I mean, if you don’t learn how to love yourself enough to be by yourself, how are you going to be able to handle yourself by being in a relationship with someone else?

Before you blame the internet for the problem, you should blame yourself for the problem because too many people are in a rush to get into a relationship without taking the time to truly know someone. But instead, they ignored the red flags and proceeded with the relationship anyway all because they’re so desperate for love.

For real, quit whining about it, quit worrying about it, quit complaining about it, shut up and wait. That’s what God’s timing is for to get yourselves together. Learn to give yourself love, learn to be okay with being alone and once you do that, you won’t be so desperate.

In closing, I advise you that if you want to meet people and make new friends, do it the old-fashion way, in person. Don’t worry about love because as long as God is existing, you will be loved, and if you have love for God and you love yourself, no one will get you into any type of situation.
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Spilling the Tea: The Drama of Omarosa

Since everyone is going bananas over Omarorsa vs. Trump, that leaves me no other choice but to spill the tea about this drama.

First off, I’ve seen Omarosa Manigault Newman on the first season of The Ultimate Merger where she didn’t make it because of one of the bachelor’s martial status. From then on, I didn’t know about Celebrity Apprentice until a little later I saw clips of how evil and calculated Omarosa really was. Now that I’ve been very brief, let the tea party begin.

Now it has come to my attention  that Omarosa is going on and on about some book entitled Unhinged along with the tapes she “recorded” while she was in the White House. Honestly, Omarosa have to understand that she was the one who made the choice to turn her back on everyone who she claims to be “her people”. I’m just like Sunny Hostin from The View,  I don’t believe anything that’s coming out of Omarosa’s mouth and I don’t even know what she’s afraid of.

So, here the facts.

Omarosa is an opportunist and ever since the Trump campaign. She has been kissing Trump’s arrogant butt long enough to tell everybody to get on the Trump Train, telling people to bow down to him as if he’s some king, going around telling people how disturbed she was about Trump’s actions, telling people that she resigned , talked about how loyal she is to God, how she fears God and now all of the sudden she felt like she doesn’t have anybody. Well, here’s the tea I’m going to spill.

First of all, I do NOT feel bad for Omarosa and I don’t have no respect for her because she’s nothing but a hypocrite. She claimed to be an ordained minister who love preaching God’s Word, but she had the nerve and the audacity to go into all the community telling people bow down to Trump and get on the Trump train. I mean, what kind of an ordained minister would say things like that?! People warned Omarosa about all of that, but she didn’t pay any of them no mind. Omarosa called herself being slick by telling people she resigned. But she ain’t fooling nobody but herself because all of us know that Omarosa was fired. That’s right, FIRED!

Based on 20/20 interview, she was in her feelings talking about how people stopped talking to her, how lonely she was in the White House, and how she’ll never forget the people who turned their backs on her when she calls herself trying to help the Black Community, and she even tried to cry using glycerin tears. Like I said, I don’t feel bad for her. Now she get to realize something: Omarosa made her bed and she have to sleep in it.

What Omarosa can do right now, at this very moment, is to cut the crap and spare all of us with her book and everything else because time and time again she has beeen bragging about Trump is her friend, her boss, and her mentor, even though she didn’t make the Ultimate Merger, got fired three (3) times on  Celebrity Apprentice , she got evicted on Celebrity Big Brother, she got fired from the White House, and now she got this book out. 

The way Trump called Omarosa– the one who he “adores”, the one who “made him a star”, and the one who he said that he has “always been an Omarosa fan”– a low life. Basically, I believe Trump got the words “Low life” from one the contestants of Celebrity Apprentice  which is none other than the man himself, Omarosa’s foe: Piers Morgan. How do I know that? Easy, the proof is in the Apprentice. Piers told Trump that he’ll never work with Omarosa again because he said that “She’s a piece of Low Life trash.” 

Now that I spilled the tea, I’m going to spill some more tea.

While Omarosa is busy living in fear, wasting paper, wasting money, wasting time, and faking her way back to the Black Community, here’s a little a sermon for this so-called minister.

Omarosa,
you must’ve forgotten who you are. You must’ve forgotten what you was called to do and you must’ve forgotten who God is. I thought you said that you were a minister who love preaching the Word of God. You claimed to be a minister, you were telling us that we have to bow down to Trump. You claimed to be a minister, but you were telling us to ride the Trump train. you claimed to be a minister, but you’re acting like you’re better than everybody. You claimed that your loyalty is to God, but all of your loyalty was to Trump.

You called yourself serving God and the country, but you were serving nobody but Trump. You even turned you back not only on God, your own people. And once you got fired you’re in your feelings because people turned their backs on you. That’s Karma! You planted an apple tree in your own backyard and now you’re mad because the apples starts to grow on it. And that means that you reap what yo sow. Did you not learned that in the ministry? Look at the decision you just made, and as minister, those are not the decisions you’d be making at this point.

When you were on Celebrity Big Brother claiming to be a queen, you were whispering to somebody that you’re haunted by Trump’s tweets every single day. And you even said that you know everything about Trump as well. But do you God as a jealous God? Since you claimed to be a queen, what kind of a queen are you? Are you carrying yourself as Queen Esther, Queen Vashti, or Queen Jezebel? With a conniving attitude you have, you’re carrying yourself like Queen Vashti. Why? It’s because you’re the queen who fired three times on Celebrity Apprentice, you’re the queen who got fired and escorted out of the White House, and you’re the queen who got evicted from Celebrity Big Brother. Most of all, do you fear God more than you fear Trump or do you fear Trump more than you fear God? Which one is it?

As a minister, your job is to go into all the world encouraging them to ride the Gospel Train, not the Trump train. I hope and pray that you’ve learned your lesson: You do NOT bite the hand that feed you. And if you keeping lying down with dogs, you will get up with fleas.

And in closing, since you called Trump your “boss”,just remember one thing: the Word of God stand forever, and there’s only one boss in this world, and that’s none other than GOD Almighty Himself!
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Keeping It Real: Parents Disciplining Children Who Wanna Be Grown

I know that I don’t have any children of my own, but I just can’t stand seeing children acting like they are grown.

I mean, you’d be hearing children that are minors saying “I’m grown”, “Nobody’s gonna tell me what to do”. But to make matters worse, you even got kids that be cursing a lot, listening to that dirty rap music and watching music videos, and yes, being on the internet talking to grown men not knowing they’re ex-cons, pimps, or pedophiles.

What’s so screwed up is that real parents can’t spank their kids anymore and you even got parents trying to be a child’s friends. Since this is a new generation where parents can’t spank their kids no more, exposing them on social media is the only way to teach the wannabe-grown-kids a lesson. If that’s not good enough, have the parents send them on a field trip to a county jail and a funeral home. Basically, that’ll be a good way to give them wannabe-grown-kids a reality check.

If the kids watched Disney’s ultimate classic The Lion King, pay close attention to the lessons it teaches them. Take Mufasa and his son Simba, for example. When Simba was a young cub, he called himself trying to be brave like his father Mufasa by being disobedient and putting himself and his friend Nala in danger involving a mess with the hyenas at the elephant graveyard. Of course, Mufasa was disappointed with his son but at the same time, Musfasa was terrified about losing his son, and he taught Simba that being brave doesn’t mean you go looking for trouble. To me, that makes total sense. This ought to teach the kids that being grown doesn’t you go looking for trouble, and honestly, that’s pretty much what Mufasa was teaching Simba.

A month ago, I tweeted: “I wish these little girls would stop lying about their age, stop acting like they’re grown, stay off of the internet! I can’t stand looking at pictures of them come up missing because of that!! Parents need to teach them how to read Psalm 23 and say the Lord’s Prayer!! #realtalk”

Here’s what I remembered: when I was young, my mother, my father and my late grandmother whupped me, but majority of the whuppings I get were from my mother. One night, I came home from Bible drill team practice, she torn me up with a switch and when she was satisfied, she made me pray a prayer. I have to admit, I hated it when I get whupped. But now that I’m a woman full grown, I started to understand why I’d be getting a whupping on my backside, and it’s because of what my Bible tells me:
A spanking and a warning produce wisdom, but an undisciplined child disgraces his mother (Proverbs 29:15).

Every parent should understand this Bible verse: Train a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not turn away from it. (Proverbs 22:6) It’s like Prophetess Juanita Bynum’s mother Katheryn Bynum said: “You’ve got to do it the God-kind-of way, and if you don’t do it the God kind-of way, you get a whupping. It’s no use of going to church shouting and speaking tongues and leave your children by themselves doing what they want to do.” To me, Mother Bynum does make a strong point. What she mean by “doing the God-kind of way”, she did the following with her children: Mother Bynum get the WORD down in them first, and when she get through, she’d put the belt on their backs. That’s her way of driving the devil out of them! That’s exactly how my mother did me!

As I look at a few videos about parents putting their kids in check by exposing them on social media, I’m a firm believer that it’s a good idea. But of course, there are parents who doesn’t have no control over their own kids, they’ll be the main ones who be like, “You’re shaming your kids. You shouldn’t do that. You should try being your child’s friends.” That’s basically what’s wrong with those type of parents; they’re trying to be a child’s friends by letting them tell the parents what they’re going to do, never mind about what the parents say. And the worse part is you got parents defending kids that are rebellious to them. Mother Bynum also state that the children can’t be the mama and the daddy, and if their parents are the mama and the daddy, they better stay the mama and the daddy. Even Tyler Perry’s character Madea said in the stage play I Can Do Bad All By Myself, “How are you going to be your child’s friend? When they help you pay the light bill or the phone bill or the rent, then y’all can be friends.” Even Madea said this in the movie Madea Boo Halloween: “Parents are trying to set you on the right path. Parents are not perfect, they make all kinds of mistakes, and when you start trying to make them perfect, you mess up thinking that they are. They are not God, they are parents, and they’re trying to do the best for you. Your parents ain’t lame ‘cause they tell you not to go out, not to be texting and driving—all that stuff is bad.” That truly makes total serious!

As I conclude, I’d like to leave you with this: It’s always the parents’ job to love and protect their children the way God would want them to do. But if the parents don’t discipline their children in a Godly way, the parents are going to be the ones who’s going to pay the consequences. God didn’t put parents on this earth to be a child’s best friend. He made parents and friends separately for a reason. Parents are meant to guide children and teach children, and friends are meant for a good time. Rely on what the Bible and always pray because that’s the only way to lead and guide the children all the way.